How to Actually Say Hors D'oeuvres: Native French Audio Vs. American English
The easiest way to eliminate dining pronunciation anxiety is to discard the expectation of native Parisian perfection. English speakers do not pronounce "Paris" with a silent "s" and a back-throat "r" when chatting with colleagues, and the same linguistic standard applies to the appetizer menu.
Saying "or-DERV" fits natural English rhythm without sounding uneducated or unpolished. It preserves the historical borrowing while respecting the sound rules of modern English speech. If you find yourself in France or speaking with a French culinary team, dropping the hard terminal "v" and rounding the central vowel into /ɔʁ dœvʁ/ will serve you well. In any other setting, order the passed plates with confidence, keep the initial "h" silent, and leave the social anxieties behind.